Do you have a Meeting Dependency? To find out, take this little test (which, out of sensitivity to our more heavily afflicted readers, avoids the use of the trigger word, "meeting")...
- Do you frequently find yourself in a small room with a bunch of other people during work hours and wondering why you're there, especially since there is no food anywhere in sight?
- Have you ever sat for an entire hour with a group of semi-strangers who all seemed to care passionately about something you didn't understand and never said a word?
- Do you ever come out of a mandatory non-social work gathering and realize that, despite an hour of intense talking -- to the point that the temperature of the room has actually been raised by several degrees purely due to the amount of hot air expelled -- nothing was decided?
- Do you find yourself ending even your social gatherings with, "I'll schedule a follow-up so that we can continue this discussion, and hopefully come to a resolution by next week"?
- Have you come to the realization that your desk is just the place you go to look at your schedule and find out where you're supposed to be now?
- Have you memorized the exact position, attractiveness, and seating capacity of every conference room in your building, even though it's 24 stories tall?
- Are you unable to communicate with people unless they gather into groups of four or more and carry notepads?
Turn off that Outlook Calendar reminder.
Stop asking people to meet you "for a quick brain dump."
Immediately cancel all recurring weekly meetings for projects that ended months ago.
Start asking, "Why do you need me at that meeting?"
Above all, learn to say NO to the urge to schedule one more "quick check-in" that lasts an hour.I'm not going to try to bribe you with ice cream or free bagels (though I think we still have some in the freezer from the last meeting). This isn't an intervention, where you need to be tricked into paying attention. You need to admit you need help and seek it out. It's the only way to achieve true healing. Trust me, your life will be better for it.